I was talking to a friend of mine who had made a big mistake. He had gone way past remorse to a place where he was unnecessarily beating himself up for the mistake. That’s truly a bad space to be in: so down on yourself because of a fault that you can’t seem to move forward even after you’ve repented. But that situation made me think about mistakes in general. We all make them. And sometimes we have a tendency to be super hard on ourselves after we’ve made a mistake, even after we’ve asked God for forgiveness. I believe that’s the adversary’s way of trying to keep us down.
Some people speak and write about their haters. Some people even thank God for their haters. But your biggest hater may be the person looking back at you when you look in the mirror. It makes perfect sense if you look at it from a warfare perspective. You are around you more than anyone else is. What better way for the adversary to steal your joy than to cause you to be unhappy with the person that you spend the most time around?
We have to get to a point where we love ourselves unconditionally. No matter how overweight or underweight we are, no matter how unintelligent we feel we are, no matter how unattractive we perceive ourselves to be, no matter our mistakes. Know that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. If we fall, we can get back up and move on. We can love ourselves unconditionally. Because it’s hard to love others when you don’t love yourself.