Hating someone is similar to being strapped to a table with a high definition TV right above you, showing life with great clarity moving on without you. Imagine harboring hatred for someone in such a way that your mannerisms change when they enter the room; even at the mention of their name. Now imagine that the person you hate is totally unaware of your hatred. Wouldn’t that be an utter waste of your time?
A portion of your life is on pause when you hold grudges. Blessings that would otherwise be very clear to you become obscured by animosity. In some cases, you can’t even hear the voice of God speaking to you and guiding you to perfect peace because of bitterness and lack of forgiveness. But to forgive someone is to be free. Forgiveness is actually more for your benefit than for the person you are pardoning.